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5 Bad Habits That Can Ruin Your Relationship

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There are a few habits that we sub-consciously indulge in that could badly harm our relationships. Here's a rundown...












Nagging: Nobody likes a nagger. In fact it could potentially be toxic for a lot of your relationships. It's important to let your partner be and not interfere as much. There's a thin line between being cute and being annoying, know when to draw that line or it can be destructive for your relationship.

Comparing: Learn to appreciate your partner and love him or her for what they are instead of constantly comparing them to every Tom, Dick and Harry. Even if you're doing it subconsciously in your head- stop. And mentioning it to them is an absolute no-no. Your partner deserves better than that.

Talking about your ex: Nobody would like to feel like they're constantly being held up for comparison with your previous lovers. A sure way of ruining your own relationship is by continually bringing up your past liaisons. Till your both reach a stage of security, steer clear of this topic.

Bad communication: Only half-listening to your partner and nodding your head for everything without really paying much attention can be detrimental for your relationship in the long run. Work on your communication and try to really listen and grasp what your partner is talking about to you.

Bringing up the past: Avoid discussing the past. Its important to realize that no matter how much you discuss it or bring it up, it cannot be erased. If you truly want to be with your partner, then make a concerted effort to forget his/her past and move on to newer beginnings. Remember that you are his/her present.



Does a Womans Independence Intimidate Men

One of the most interesting pieces of advice my mother ever gave me was, “Don’t come off too strong when in the presence of a guy you like.”


History has shown it isn’t just my mom who thinks this way; pop culture tells women to bat their eyelashes and wear passive lip gloss instead of bold lipstick to attract a man.
Bill Clinton cheated on the highly successful Hillary with the less-established Monica. Mr. Big married Natasha over Carrie.





Johnny Depp left triple threat Vanessa Paradis for a 20-something up-and-comer. These instances have left me wondering, do independent women intimidate men? And, if so, why?
In order to correctly examine this claim, it’s crucial to define what exactly deems a woman as “independent.”


Several modern feminists refer to themselves as “independent” if they feel they don’t really need men — they just want them. Some feminists will even go so far as to say they don’t even want men.
It should come as no surprise that many of us don’t feel we need men, thanks to better career opportunities than ever before, good friends and great vibrators.


Still, this relatively new, not-needing-a-man reality has proven to be bittersweet: It has propelled the women’s movement forward, but has taken women backward when it comes to romantic relationships.


Joshua Pompey, an expert on dating, has incredible insight on this topic.
In this Huff Post piece, Pompey speaks for successful and highly-driven women:


They pursue the perfect man in the same manner that they have spent their entire lives pursuing the perfect job and education.

The problem is, romance isn’t a trophy. Not enough ‘regular guys’ are given opportunities because women have so many options these days. Especially with the emergence of online dating.

This creates a cultural resentment towards women who are only interested in, say, the top ten percent of the dating population. And because women ‘don’t need’ men, they can afford to search endlessly for a man that may or may not exist.

If smart women do, in fact, intimidate men, it’s safe to say it’s not women’s fault, but the fault of time. Women, just like men, are products of their environment.


It just so happens our contemporary environment is the result of a feminist revolution that’s taken place in both the workplace and the social scene. In other words, we’ve gradually been conditioned to not need men.


Another possible explanation for why successful women scare off men is the old and reliable, “He left her for a bimbo.” First and foremost, some men consider women as sexual objects because men are initially driven by the visual.






The reason so many independent women are alone, then, is because we’re smart enough to have picked up on the fact that men tend to choose hot, less accomplished women over us, and in turn, we use independence as a self-defense mechanism to avoid getting hurt or betrayed.


This Monica-Hillary formula alludes to society’s placement of the label “emotionally unavailable” on single and successful women. If bimbo-loving is the reason why so many successful women are alone, men and their insecurities are to blame.


I wrote this article to follow up my piece, “The Difference Between Loving Someone and Being In Love,” which seemed to garner a lot of attention, most of which was backlash.


I want to elucidate my feelings on the theory; more often than not, women who believe themselves to be intelligent, capable and worthy, end up alone or searching for men with all the same qualities.
It’s possible our expectations for potential partners are too high, but it isn’t probable; moreover, it’s justifiable. Doesn’t a woman who has it all deserve a man who has it all, too? Why should she settle for anything less?


To tie it all together, if what she has, or is capable of doing, scares a man off, how does it seem fair for him to blame her unfaltering drive as a culprit, instead of as a celebration?






Now, I understand why Big married Natasha over Carrie: He wanted to feel like more of a man.
Ladies, don’t ever apologize for your successes. More importantly, don’t ever settle for less than what you think you deserve. It’s better to be alone than to be in a sub-par relationship.


But, as the battle of the sexes continues, I find myself asking a question with the same meaning: Can independent women truly have it all?


Sheena Sharma

Sheena Sharma                           Elite Daily

Contributor - Sheena is a born-and-bred New Yorker. She's a singer, a writer, and a hopeless romantic. Follow her journey here: soundcloud.com/sheena90 -- Twitter: @sheen2990 -- Instagram: sheenybeanz





Factors For Relationship Compatibility

6 Surprising Predictors of Relationship Compatibility


Many of us think we know which traits we want our ideal partner to have. Yet for some reason we often find ourselves attracted to people who possess none of those qualities. Sometimes we meet potential mates who seem perfect on paper but with whom we have no immediate spark. Other times we feel instant chemistry but end up with an incompatible long-term partner.
 
Attraction may feel natural, but that doesn’t mean it’s random. To figure out how we choose romantic partners, scientists have done everything from study symmetry of the human face to observe subconscious reactions to the smell of armpit sweat. If there were a formula for lasting love, what percentage of human compatibility can we credit to our behavior and what percentage is simple biology?
 
Surprisingly, research shows that attraction and compatibility can be predicted early on by interpreting some remarkable biological clues. Some signs of attraction and compatibility are obvious, but many may amaze you. Here are 6 surprising predictors that sparks will fly:
 
1. DNA: Your genes matter more than your jeans.
 
According to the biotechnology research company Instant Chemistry, up to 40% of physical attraction is determined by your genes. We are biologically programmed to feel that instant “spark” with someone who has a different genetic makeup than our own, and research shows that genetically compatible partners are more likely to make it work long-term.
 
“But not only do biologically compatible partners produce children with strong immune systems, these couples also enjoy more satisfying sex lives, greater marital stability, and increased fertility rates—and they find each other more attractive!” Instant Chemistry reports.
 
2. Facial features: The eyes (and more) have it.
 
The shape and angle of a person’s face provides insight into reproductive health. Evolutionary biologist Randy Thornhill of the University of New Mexico explains that estrogen influences bone growth in a woman’s face and chin, leading to moderately small and short facial features and prominent eyes. Men’s faces are shaped by testosterone, which results in a larger face and jaw and a more prominent brow. The prevalence of these traits advertises reproductive health, which makes a person seem more attractive to the opposite sex.
 




3. Smell: Your perfect match might be right under your nose.
 
Human odor preferences are shaped by sexual selection, and we are evolutionarily inclined to be sensitive to odor cues. Human sweat carries a lot of information about a person’s gender, genetic compatibility, and reproductive state. Those who maintain a good diet, an indicator of overall health, smell healthier and are more attractive to others. In fact, a team of biologists from the Czech Republic recently found that subjects who ate garlic, which is chock-full of antioxidants, smelled more attractive—ironically!
 
4. Language: What did you say?
 
Studies show that people who use the same kinds of function words (pronouns and conjunctions) when speaking are more likely to be a successful match. After looking at speed-dating results, researchers found a link between function-word similarity and the speed-daters’ odds of going on a second date, as well as couples’ odds of staying together three months after the experiment. Interestingly, language similarity turned out to be an even more accurate predictor of Relationship Compatibility when compared to other factors such as “perceived similarity with one’s date, perceived relationship quality, and how many words people spoke to each other during conversation,” according to a study by Texas Tech University.
 
5. Color: Red is the new black.
 
There’s a reason why red is the color of love and passion. Research shows that both men and women perceive people wearing the color red as powerful, strong, and dominant. Studies also show that the color can produce physical responses like increased heart rate and heightened sense of smell. For women, the color red enhances a man’s attractiveness. Researchers from the University of Rochester found that female study participants even rated the same man as more attractive after seeing him against a red backdrop. Men in another study gave higher tips to waitresses wearing red.
 
But where does the link between red and sexual attraction originate? Scientists think it’s associated with physical signs of sexual excitement like redness in the erogenous areas and facial blushing. In addition, strong blood flow and high testosterone levels in men often produce a reddish tone to the skin. The color itself seems to have evolved into a sign of reproductive health and potential.
 
6. Voice pitch: It’s not what you say but how you say it.
 
If you’ve ever wondered why women swoon over men with low-pitched voices, it’s because we tend to associate men with deep baritones with larger bodies. In contrast, results of a study from University College London showed that male listeners preferred higher-pitched, breathier female voices, which they associated with a smaller body size. Deep male voices and high-pitched female voices are perceived as more attractive because of this association with body size.
 
Needless to say, the rules of attraction are complex, involving much more than good looks and a witty pickup line. Hot or not, research shows that your body knows what you’re attracted to better than you do! If you’re looking for love, you can put on a red shirt, eat some garlic, and hope for the best. Or you can follow the roadmap to love that’s already in your DNA. After all, while love is not an exact science, you may have had the clues to finding it all along.
 
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Chivalrous Habits of a True Gentleman

In a world filled with late-night booty calls, infidelity and a general “hit it and split it” mentality, it’s easy to become jaded by today’s dating scene.


As women, we brace ourselves for the worst, proceeding with extreme caution during the first few months, for fear of falling victim to the aforementioned debauchery in which so many men partake.
It’s a welcome relief, then, when we stumble upon those few true gentlemen. They exude chivalry with even their smallest actions, and remind us that there are still good ones out there.


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It doesn’t take a grand gesture or costly display of affection to win a girl over. Often, it just takes a little sincerity and display of genuine romantic interest.


Despite popular opinion, chivalry is not dead — here are 10 everyday gestures of men that prove it:


1. Opening doors



A guy who takes the time to come around and open the car door for you is a keeper, not to mention a commodity this winter.
With certain states getting up to five inches of snow an hour, do you want to be left standing outside in a blizzard while your date gets nice and toasty in the driver’s seat?
Recognize and appreciate a guy who puts your comfort and well-being first, even if it’s just for a few extra seconds.

2. Saving the last bite of food



They say the way to a man’s heart is through his stomach. So, when he saves the last bite for you, it’s basically him saying he likes you more than whatever meal is in front of him. Which, for the record, is a lot.



3. Spending time with your family



A guy who shows an interest in your baby photos, coaches your little brother on how to throw a football and compliments your mother’s cooking is a guy who’s in it for the long haul. These are small gestures, but they speak volumes about his intentions.



4. Suffering through a girly movie



When a man volunteers to endure a girly show or movie because he knows you’ll enjoy it, he earns major bonus points. (Even more if he does so without complaining or expecting something in return.)



5. Sending flowers



I’m not talking about the R100 bouquet you get on Valentine’s Day. I’m talking about the grocery store assortment he picked up on a random Tuesday while thinking of you. There’s just something about unexpected flowers that makes a girl smile.



6. Walking on the outside of the sidewalk



The first time someone does this, you will probably be confused. But then you’ll start to question how come other men in your life have never been concerned about positioning themselves in such a way that you’d be protected should curbside tragedy strike.
It’s not a must, but it’s certainly nice to have.



7. Kissing your forehead



Sure, if you’re hoping to date someone and he does this, it can be a dreaded sign of sibling-like affection.
But, if you’re in a long-term relationship and your guy does this, it’s a small gesture that can make you feel adored.



8. Filling up your gas tank



Much like walking on the outside of a sidewalk, this gesture will probably surprise you the first time it’s performed.
It’s indicative of a man who was raised right and is generally courteous, which is always a welcome surprise.



9. Putting your jacket on



Women are fully capable of putting their own jackets on, but it’s not a question of ability. It’s gentlemanly and kind for someone to hold out your jacket for you or offer you theirs when it’s cold.
These are little ways men show they care, the same way women have instincts to nurture and protect loved ones.


Chivalry is not dead; men can be everyday knights in shining armor. You just have to learn to spot the subtle, more meaningful gestures.






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Facts About Men

#6 Life is Lonesome


For Single Men The bar graph here speaks out loud for single men. It clearly shows that single men must be finding it very difficult to get laid, for a maximum number of them have sex just once a month or even less. In contrast, men who are in a relationship fare make love once a week, with a slightly lower percentage scoring around 2-3 times a week. Men and promiscuity are synonymous- a fact amply proved by the pie chart in the picture. Just 9% of the men have had a single partner, whereas 38% said they have had anywhere between 2-10 lovers. Twelve percent of the men even said that they have had more than 50 partners!


Life is Lonesome for Single Men


#5 V-Day Celebrations


A Survey Just a quick glimpse through the graphic presentation of the data in this picture shows you that Valentine’s Day certainly calls for celebrations among people. After all, according to the survey, 72% said that they would be celebrating the universal day of love. Sixty-six percent said that they would mark the occasion by taking their significant other out for a fancy dinner, while 50% said that they would make do with just flowers. But one important trend that the survey brought to light was that if individuals were in a relationship, a majority, 69% to be precise, expected sex only because it was Valentine’s Day.


V-Day Celebrations- A Survey


#4 It’s safe to say men are lying if they say they don’t watch porn.


According to the pie chart in this image, a whopping majority of men, 82% to be precise, watch porn. Thirty-five percent of them watch it a few times per week whereas, 33% of them watch it a few times per month. For the avidity with which men seem to be watching porn, the next data comes as a bit of a surprise. 49% say that watching porn has had no effect on them. The rest either say that they have become better in bed, have unrealistic expectations from their partners or use it as a substitute for dating. Obviously, the former category of men is lying; the other three categories are being more truthful!


It’s safe to say men are lying if they say they don’t watch porn.


#3 Men do not like weird sex positions…or standing.


As per the data shown pictorially in this image, men prefer not to have sex in weird positions. They are more comfortable with the usually techniques and in fact, even do not like sex while standing. Thirty-one percent said that they like the cow-girl position while making love, followed by 29% who said they preferred the doggie-style of having sex. Also, 27% of the men said they enjoy sex in the missionary position. It also appears as if men are a visual lot who like shooting pictures and videos. Fifty seven percent of the men said they had shot their partners in their birthday suits while having sex.


Men do not like weird sex positions…or standing.












#2 Some men definitely want that birth control pill


Men enjoy having sex, but like women do not unwanted pregnancies- a fact amply highlighted by the data given in this image. Fifty four percent of the men said that they would be happy to take a birth control pill, if one for males was available. 10% were a bit more cautious for they said they would take the pill if it caused no adverse side-effects. As far as self-consciousness during sex was concerned, while 43% of the men said that when naked they felt conscious about their stomachs, 39% remarked that they were too busy looking at their partners to be self-conscious at all. Whoever said that men were the shy type?


Some men definitely want that birth control pill


#1 But, basically…the survey says 99.9999% of men are liars…


Men are born liars, many have said this many a times. And they are quite right in saying so if this data given in the image is anything to go by. According to this survey, 48% of the men lied to women that they were interested in forging a lasting relationship with her to get her to bed. The percent of men giving other excuses such as having more money, being single and having a better job for wooing partners for sex was much less. This shows that where having sex is concerned, men know women’s biggest weakness- their emotional temperament.


But, basically…the survey says all men are liars…


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Ways to Feel Re-Inspired About Love


Love Is All Around With Couple Inlove


Your last break up may have left a bad taste in your mouth and part of you might be giving up on love altogether. I believe that life is too short to be missing out on love, passion and romance and I do believe there’s always a way.

If you would like some tips for you to feel inspired again about the possibility of having a loving and fulfilling relationship, then read on..










1. Read some Success Stories

A great way for you to get inspired again, is to read some success stories about how other couples met online. As humans, we often relate to other people’s stories and by relating to someone’s personal story, you might see how the same outcome might be possible for you. Rather than feeling envious, remind yourself that there is no reason that you could experience the same outcome.
Another thing to consider is for you to ask your married friends how they met their partner and what actually happened in the initial stages of dating. You might be surprised that there were instances where it wasn’t a ‘love at first sight’ kind of story.


We often assume that thing are always effortless and rosy at the beginning, which isn’t always the case. By you hearing more stories about how others met and what happened for them, it might give you a more broader perspective about the possibilities of meeting your ideal partner.

2. See Yourself Already Having it

I do believe there is a lot of truth in the saying “Energy flows to where your attention goes”. In other words, rather than you focusing on your feelings of negativity about men or dating, your past disappointments and your current lack of dates, why not focus on your desired outcome.










One thing I’ll encourage my clients to do is to visit their desired outcome by visualizing it every single day. Create a clear vision around what having a fulfilling, passionate and loving relationship would look like.


How would you feel differently?

What would you partner say to you on your first romantic getaway?

How would you know you were with the right person for you?

Another great thing you could do is read out a statement form the perspective of already having your ideal relationship. For example:


“It’s February 2015 and I’m so grateful to be in a loving and committed relationship. I got here, because I allowed myself to trust and chose not to give up on love. I’m over the moon, I feel so loved.”

3. Create a Dating Strategy

Love Tips and Creating a Dating Plan


Now you’re feeling re-inspired about your relationship goal, it’s time to create a plan of action. Having a plan will give you even more focus and therefore will give you more certainty. Working with a dating coach will definitely assist you here, especially when some of our resistance might come up.

In order to create a dating strategy, you could ask yourself:

What are the 3 most likely ways for me to meet my future partner?

Could my Mr Right potentially be online or am I more likely to meet him though mutual friends?

Come up with at least 3 ways to meet potential partners and make your goal a priority.
Part of the plan could be your scheduling times for potential dates. Your plan of action could be to aim for at least two new dates per week. Once your clear on your relationship goal, let your friends know and ask for support. Keep focused on your desired outcome and don’t give up, no matter what.


One of my favorite quotes is by poet Rumi, which states: “What you seek is seeking you.”

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Single Parent Dating

Dating can be stressful for many people, add being a single parent to the equation, and it can be that much harder. After a divorce single parents need time to get used to their new routine, such as child-custody arrangements and spending quality time with their children, while juggling many other things.


Moreover, while the courts may dictate a custody arrangement, all too often one parent may choose to consistently deviate from the plan, making it challenging for the other to plan their time. Still, when enough time has passed and you are ready to embark on your dating journey, it’s important to gather your resources of family, friends and babysitters in order to carve out the time and energy for this process.


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First, there are many ways to meet new potential dates. You may want to try online dating, meet ups, single parent groups or new activities, such as dance lessons. It’s at events like these that you can meet someone with common interests. However, before you go on that first date, you need to do a few things. I suggest a makeover—from the inside out!


This means, if you need professional help to move past your divorce, your ex or any other issue that would spill into a new relationship, don’t be afraid to get it. Next, work with a dating coach who can bring you up to date on the new dating landscape while reviewing with you the dos and don’ts of dating.




An image consultant will help you assess and recommend changes to your wardrobe, hairstyle, make-up, etc. They may even recommend having your teeth whitened. This may all sound superficial, but the fact is, looking your best has a direct correlation to feeling good about yourself, which makes for great first impressions.


When it comes to your kids, if they’re of an age where they can understand, let them know what you’re doing. Tell them you’re looking for a friend to have fun with. Reassure them of your love for them and that even when you’re out, they’re always in your heart and your thoughts.
Then, be sure to make appropriate childcare arrangements for peace of mind, so that you don’t feel guilty about going out and having a good time.


Children of any age can get attached to any partner you choose, so it’s important to avoid having a revolving door of men or women around your children. Only introduce someone to your kids when you feel there is potential for a long-term relationship, and after you’ve vetted them enough to know it’s safe to have them around your kids.


Dating is about getting to know each other, keeping things light and having fun. The key to balance when dating as a single parent is to always be present. When you’re with your children, be with your children. And, when you’re on a date, be with your date.


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5 Things You Didnt Know Sex can do for your Career

Having more sex has been linked to lower stress levels at work, and even higher pay.




You've probably heard the saying "sex sells," which is why sexy images appear so often in advertisements. But did you know sex can also improve your business and boost your career?
We often think of our business and personal lives as two entirely separate spheres, but in fact what happens at home and what happens at work often have overlapping effects. For instance, a stressful day at work can often send you home cranky, and workplace stress can elevate your blood pressure and cause everything from headaches to insomnia.


Similarly, happiness at home can have a calming effect at work, helping you make more clear-headed decisions and making you less likely to fall ill or feel overwhelmed with stress. Sure, sex sells, but it also has the power to improve your 9-to-5 life, whether you're a worker bee or the boss. Here are just a few ways a good sex life can turn your career around:


1. People who have sex get paid more. Apparently there are some outside-of-the-bedroom perks for having more sex. One of those perks is a higher paycheck, at least according to research from the Institute for the Study of Labor. The study found people who have sex at least four times a week make more money than their peers who get less busy. It seems the correlation lies in how those who have more sex tend to be both happier and healthier, leading to more enthusiasm at work, better decisions, and less discrimination, which in turn leads to higher paychecks.


2. Sex reduces stress and prolongs health. Sex is a major stress reduction agent, which means better health and fewer sick days. According to the book Your Doctor is Wrong by Sharon Norling, frequent orgasms can increase life expectancy by three to eight years. Plus, a study by Arizona State University showed sexual behavior with a partner correlated with lower negative mood and higher positive mood the following day in middle-aged women.


3. Sex produces immune system-boosting hormones, resulting in fewer sick days. Dehydroepiandrosterone (DHEA) is a hormone released during sexual encounters, and it has a whole host of benefits. Some of these include health benefits like reducing symptoms in women with lupus and alleviating depression. In fact, DHEA can even take years off your real age. According to a study by the Royal Edinburgh Hospital, people in their 40s who reported having 50 percent or more sex than their peers also appeared to be about seven to 13 years younger than their actual age when judged by a panel of strangers.


4. No more office migraines: Oxytocin is pain relief. Oxytocin, released during sex, is also important in pain relief. Often called the "love hormone," oxytocin is also released during labor in order to relieve pain. With its power to help relieve pain, the hormone could keep you feel healthier in the office.
5. Entrepreneurship can actually improve your sex life. Taking control of your own destiny by becoming an entrepreneur can be empowering--and it can empower more than just your career prospects. A recent survey of entrepreneurs found 14 percent reported having more sex after ditching their 9-to-5 job. So it works both ways--more sex can help your career with better health and higher wages, and finally breaking out on your own and following your entrepreneurial dreams can lead to more sex.


You might think your career and your sex life are completely separate entities, but what happens at home and at work can often intersect in interesting ways. By spending more time with your partner, you'll actually be improving your chances of getting that promotion or taking your business to the next level.


What do you think? Do you think there's a link between your career and your sex life? Share in the comments!










12 Things Marriage Is and 12 Things It Isn't

24 years of marriage.
That's what September 15th meant for me.
We had celebrated earlier so I didn't remember until I was driving to work. I called him. Told him I loved him. I got grocery store flowers when I got home. Beautifully arranged by the way.
What ever did we do without grocery store flowers?
Between being a marital therapist and my own experience, I have learned a few things. Since I am on year #24, I've divided them into 12's. Just to be cute.


12 Things That Marriage Is Not:


1. Marriage is not for sissies. It's hard work.
2. Marriage is not about getting what you want all the time. It's not a dictatorship. It's not wanting to win all the time because that would mean the other person would lose all the time. May be OK for you. Not good for the marriage.
3. Marriage is not rocket science. The principles it's based on are really pretty simple. Kindness. Respect. Loyalty. That kind of thing.
4. Marriage is not unfashionable. It stays vital. Even Brangelina must think so.
5. Marriage is not in and of itself stimulating. Since you are with the same person over a long time, the two of you can get in a rut. You have to keep things fresh.
6. Marriage is not about collecting things. The joys of marriage aren't tangible. You live them. That's what makes them so very special.
7. Marriage is not for the impatient. Some of the best stuff takes a while to develop. You have to stick around to find that out.
8. Marriage is not the place for criticism. For abuse. If it is found there, it will ruin any chance of true intimacy or trust and dissolve the hope that once might have existed.
9. Marriage is not a 24-hour repair shop. Your marital partner is not supposed to meet your every need. Some of those needs you may have to take care of yourself. Through your friendships or other activities.
10. Marriage is not self-sustaining. It does not thrive on its own. If all you focus on is the kids, you are making a mistake.
11. Marriage is not boring. Two lives woven together can be quite exciting! There's just something about watching someone very different from you, living their life in an extremely different way. Up close and personal. You learn from that.
12. Marriage is not without conflict. Knowing how to disagree and work through anger and disappointment is probably the key to lots of stuff going well. Getting to that cooperating, mentioned in #2.












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12 Things That Marriage Is:


1. Marriage is the potential for an intense, deep and diverse intimacy. Sexual. Emotional. Relational.
2. Marriage is knowing someone has your back. Always. You have theirs. It's about interdependence.
3. Marriage is realizing that you have been seen in your worst times, and that you are still loved. There's an overriding sense of gratitude and security.
4. Marriage is sharing old jokes. Or some story that may be told over and over but it still makes you laugh 'til you are left gasping for breath.
5. Marriage is getting teary-eyed together.
6. Marriage is thinking about the other one not being there anymore. And not being able to think about it.
7. Marriage is getting irritated by the things that always irritate you. Have irritated you for 24 years. Will irritate you for 24 more. And tolerating it because it is way overbalanced by the good stuff.
8. Marriage is not being able to wait to get home to share some little something.
9. Marriage is wishing you were the one having the operation. Or the illness. Not him.
10. Marriage is sometimes fighting. Trying to slowly learn to fight more fairly. To apologize. To listen. To learn. To find resolution.
11. Marriage is about vulnerability. Giving someone the right to hurt or disappoint you. While simultaneously giving that someone the opportunity to bring you tremendous joy and laughter.
12. Marriage is a promise. A vow. To try the hardest you have ever tried in your life. Marriage is a place for the achievement of a personal integrity like no other.
I'm now living year #25.


So far. So good. Thanks for reading! You can find more from Dr. Margaret at


http://drmargaretrutherford.com!


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10 Sex things men dont care about

#1 If You Have Morning Breath


Morning breath? Doesn't matter if he's all rearing to go.



#2 Weird Sex Sounds You Make

Don't stay quiet just because you are worried you might make a weird sound. Let go and enjoy. He will.

#3 Where They Have Sex

It doesn't matter where you have sex or if the lights are on or off.



#4 Which Positions You Like

As long as you're in any sex position, he will like it.


#5 If You're Wearing No Makeup

No makeup, he won't care. In fact, guys like girls au naturale.












#6 If Your Hair Isn't Washed

Is he really interested in your hair?











#7 If You've Gained A Few

No man is going to care if you gained a few pounds here or there while making love, so stop worrying.



#8 If You're Too Loud

Go ahead and scream. It will only make him feel like he's the greatest in bed.



#9 Your Hairy Legs

Okay maybe you shouldn't be as hairy as this picture, but a little stubble is not going to both men.

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#10 The Smell Of Your Vag
 
Guys like your natural scent, so don't worry about covering it up.











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